Amour & a Post-Valentine Reflection

NewImageA little late to the game, hum movies, my husband and I pushed ourselves to see Amour, the recent French film nominated for Best Picture. So many things stand in the way of Amour winning an Oscar: It’s slow. It’s sobering. After the opening scene, the entire 2 hours is set in the claustrophobic confines of a decaying apartment. And it’s French.

It simply can’t win Best Picture.

But what Amour tells us about love is crazily disturbing. It’s the side of love we don’t want to know. The part of love never written on the splashy Pink and Red Valentine cards. The reality never wailed in the Country songs or cooed in R&B. It’s the part of love that makes us want to turn our face and pretend it is otherwise.

Amour tells the love story of fidelity when there’s nothing pretty or convenient or romantic. The love story when your companion of many decades is now incontinent and incoherent. The love story of promises kept and covenants honored.

It’s the love story of sacrifice. Of subordinating our desires, relinquishing our rights, surrendering our freedoms, for the ones we love.

The message of Love is a Jesus message of sacrifice. Brutally and painfully real. If your hope this Lent is to draw closer to the Source of Love, then let me suggest forget Valentines Day. See AmourAmour. Read the Gospels. Then consider what your commitments of “love” look like. For real.

One thought on “Amour & a Post-Valentine Reflection

  1. I too saw the movie Amour this weekend. Though I found the love story of this couple beautiful up until the end, I would be careful of comparing it to Jesus’ message of sacrifice. (Spoiler alert, for those still waiting to see the movie) Jesus doesn’t snap in the Garden and decide to end it all his way. It was truly terrifying to see the monster in the husband come out as he suffocated his wife. Seeing someone you love slowly die is very painful. I took care of my mother her last 2 months as she died from colon cancer. None of us were strong enough to care for her alone and it took my family coming together to keep her at home to die. Death is a very painful road that we are all destined to follow. The deeper call is for us to be willing to walk alongside each other through this very dark valley, to be community. In the movie, the husband had no one beside him and as we saw, it is a very heavy burden. Let’s choose to walk beside each other as best as we can, not falling asleep in the garden or denying the reality.

    On another note, the lighting, angles and cinematography I found beautiful and do think it deserves the nomination of best picture…and Emmanuelle Riva was truly exceptional in her acting.

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